Felt like a child at Christmas when I saw this come through. Your writing is SUCH a treat. And everything you say here is just so... correct? I’m nodding along without a single thing to add; glad to my core that someone - especially someone so eloquent and introspective - as you has said all of this. Thank you; this is a truly fantastic piece.
i was already SO EXCITED for this one when i saw your note about your essay on 'gen z not wanting to party' (i'm assuming this is the essay that note was referring to) and you did not disappoint! i found myself pretty much annotating this essay as i went along because there were so many great points and i loved how you approached it from some combination of academic and personal experience.
"But how do we live if we can’t sum up ourselves and our patterns of behaviour in one word?" - I think there's so much to be said about the modern age's obsession with labels, microlabels, trend, aesthetics, etc. etc. in place of identity and I think this one line captures that entire idea so succinctly.
"If you want human connection, sometimes you have to start by talking about the weather."
"And I think the sensitivity to people’s need for time alone, time to rest, and aversion to stereotypical funfunfun type fun is a good thing." - I really love how your essay takes the time to address both sides and find a middle ground; I think your writing is extremely empathetic in that sense.
I love that you added your perspective to the discussion around 'kids ain't partying anymore.' I've always felt like 'introvert' is a flat term.. yet I feel forced to choose between the red pill (extroversion) and the blue pill (introversion) and stick to it for the rest of my life. Very important discussion and such a lovely essay
Love this - the whole introvert vs extrovert thing drives me crazy. People get such a sense of belonging from defining themselves by certain things (myself included) but it’s so overly simplistic. I’ve been to countless management training sessions where they want you to define yourself as one or the other, and also your team members…inevitably get scowled at when I suggest it might actually be harmful to make sweeping generalisations on how individuals might behave, think or feel based on a binary. Thank you for this - really well put
I appreciate how you challenge the binary labels and emphasize the fluidity of our social needs. Your insights on the allure of staying in and the impact of social media resonate deeply, reminding us of the importance of genuine connections.
I am so late to this but loved it a lot!!! I have several friends who have manufactured for themselves a kind of social anxiety (which is obv a real condition; I am not negating that at all). I think they + lots of ppl forget that being social is a Skill. which means it can be learned. thanks for the great read!
thank you!! I don't know if I can speak for anyone else but I definitely got so comfortable in my social anxiety that I forgot it's a skill- it would've brought me so much hope if I'd have been able to see the person I am now!
i have always felt that these terms are incredibly flat (these, and many other of the tags we use to categorize ourselves) and you put it in the perfect words, thank you for articulating what i have been thinking and trying to explain every time i am asked and i say i am an "introvert" who loves to party? or an "extrovert" who can be shy? i love how you frame it in this article and i will surely share it!
I am deeply introverted but I feel this write uo gets me in a way that we still want to live outside of instagram stories, and want to go out to experience many things even if we choose to do it on our own!
i agree with the idea of artists being associated with introverts but actually going out to something that may not be in your field of art can revitalise you creatively. I’m a painter but love going to live music and dancing, it makes me write and draw easily the next day
Felt like a child at Christmas when I saw this come through. Your writing is SUCH a treat. And everything you say here is just so... correct? I’m nodding along without a single thing to add; glad to my core that someone - especially someone so eloquent and introspective - as you has said all of this. Thank you; this is a truly fantastic piece.
this comment moved me so much ❤️ I can’t thank you enough
i was already SO EXCITED for this one when i saw your note about your essay on 'gen z not wanting to party' (i'm assuming this is the essay that note was referring to) and you did not disappoint! i found myself pretty much annotating this essay as i went along because there were so many great points and i loved how you approached it from some combination of academic and personal experience.
"But how do we live if we can’t sum up ourselves and our patterns of behaviour in one word?" - I think there's so much to be said about the modern age's obsession with labels, microlabels, trend, aesthetics, etc. etc. in place of identity and I think this one line captures that entire idea so succinctly.
"If you want human connection, sometimes you have to start by talking about the weather."
"And I think the sensitivity to people’s need for time alone, time to rest, and aversion to stereotypical funfunfun type fun is a good thing." - I really love how your essay takes the time to address both sides and find a middle ground; I think your writing is extremely empathetic in that sense.
❤️❤️❤️ honoured to receive such a thoughtful comment!! thank you so so much for reading and sharing your thoughts
so well said, i have so many quotes put down from this piece. i will find myself reading this article from time to time. ty for your wisdom
I love that you added your perspective to the discussion around 'kids ain't partying anymore.' I've always felt like 'introvert' is a flat term.. yet I feel forced to choose between the red pill (extroversion) and the blue pill (introversion) and stick to it for the rest of my life. Very important discussion and such a lovely essay
yes this is what it always feels like!! glad it resonated
Love this - the whole introvert vs extrovert thing drives me crazy. People get such a sense of belonging from defining themselves by certain things (myself included) but it’s so overly simplistic. I’ve been to countless management training sessions where they want you to define yourself as one or the other, and also your team members…inevitably get scowled at when I suggest it might actually be harmful to make sweeping generalisations on how individuals might behave, think or feel based on a binary. Thank you for this - really well put
thank you!!
I appreciate how you challenge the binary labels and emphasize the fluidity of our social needs. Your insights on the allure of staying in and the impact of social media resonate deeply, reminding us of the importance of genuine connections.
I have so many thoughts but I'll be here forever I just need you to know how GOOD this essay was. amazing points made, beautifully written
wow thank you so so much!!
I am so late to this but loved it a lot!!! I have several friends who have manufactured for themselves a kind of social anxiety (which is obv a real condition; I am not negating that at all). I think they + lots of ppl forget that being social is a Skill. which means it can be learned. thanks for the great read!
thank you!! I don't know if I can speak for anyone else but I definitely got so comfortable in my social anxiety that I forgot it's a skill- it would've brought me so much hope if I'd have been able to see the person I am now!
“But the morning after the night out is still part of the party.”
Loved this line so much!!! It is so true. Sometimes my favorite part of a late night out is the debrief the day after
felt like a cup of hot cocoa
thank you :)
Amazing article, thank you for sharing <3
i have always felt that these terms are incredibly flat (these, and many other of the tags we use to categorize ourselves) and you put it in the perfect words, thank you for articulating what i have been thinking and trying to explain every time i am asked and i say i am an "introvert" who loves to party? or an "extrovert" who can be shy? i love how you frame it in this article and i will surely share it!
this was so so so good
thank you ❤️❤️
1. I love this
2. I think your French 75 bit is funny
haha thank you!! finally!!
I am deeply introverted but I feel this write uo gets me in a way that we still want to live outside of instagram stories, and want to go out to experience many things even if we choose to do it on our own!
do you know the model of camera? I love the photo you attatched!
the digital camera is a Samsung L100 and she’s sooo beautiful (+ the photo of the digital camera is on an instax wide Polaroid I think) :))
i agree with the idea of artists being associated with introverts but actually going out to something that may not be in your field of art can revitalise you creatively. I’m a painter but love going to live music and dancing, it makes me write and draw easily the next day
What's an artist without inspiration!